Who’s Looking at Porn? The Results May Surprise You
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Every year, one major porn website proudly reports its statistics from the previous year. They tend to display them as a badge of honor, idolizing the sex industry. But the reality is that it merely provides a more in-depth look into the darkness lurking on the internet.
The 2019 report found that:
- On average, there were 115 million visits to the website per day. Let’s put those numbers into perspective. That would be the equivalent of every resident in Canada, Australia, the Netherlands, and Poland visiting on a single day.
- More than 1.3 million hours of new content were uploaded to the site. That’s enough content to last for 169 years. In other words, if you started watching the videos in 1850, you’d still be watching them today.
- 61% of visitors to the site are between the ages of 18 and 34 years-old.
- Worldwide, 32% of visitors to the site were female.
- The most common time to watch porn each week is Sunday nights around 11:00 pm.
For the Church, the last statistic should be overwhelmingly surprising. It can be quite shocking to realize that church-going men and women spend time viewing porn.
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Porn & The Church
Did you know that in a study conducted by Pure Desire Ministries, it was discovered that 68% of church-going men view porn on a regular basis? Just think about it for a second.
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Over half of the men who are faithfully attending church on any given Sunday are secretly stealing away to solitude to view pornography throughout the week.
They wake up early, help get their family ready for church, spend time in praise and worship, hear a powerful message, and ultimately end up leaving the church no better than when they entered. They are drowning, and are desperate for help. But they remain stuck in the quicksand that only wants to sink them to an even greater depth.
These men are not alone. Studies have found that only 13% of self-identified Christian women have never looked at porn. If you do the math, you’ll realize that at some point in time, 87% of Christian women have viewed pornography. This doesn’t mean that they purposefully looked for it, but it shows the pervasiveness of porn in today’s society.
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Trying Harder
Often, there’s no real support provided for those who struggle, and too often, they’ve heard the regular accusations when someone else admitted to having a problem. And we’ve all heard them. You know, the ones that say, “You’re not spending enough time with the Lord.”, “You should be praying more.”, “Maybe you’re not even saved, because old sinful nature cannot carry into the acceptance of Christ.”. But praying more and trying harder is not going to cease the existence of a struggle with pornography.
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Pornography is not about sex. Instead, it’s about controlling or managing our pain, stress, disappointment, and feelings of rejection in life. And while it’s easy to blame our present circumstances, the truth is that the root cause of pornography will likely be found in the past.
For example, a husband is often quick to blame his wife for his struggle with porn. He claims that she is not being intimate with him as often as he’d like. But in doing this, he’s quickly forgetting that he likely viewed pornography before he married her. So, while the lack of intimacy may be contributing, it’s not the root cause and cannot be the standalone source of blame.
Your Spouse Is Not The Problem
Dave Wilson speaks several times a year to betrayed wives who are walking through their own healing journey. He was a former sex addict, and now, along with his wife Meg, is passionate about helping individuals and couples heal from sexual addiction. He shared,
“One lie perpetuated even by some counselors and pastors is if you’d be more available sexually, your husband wouldn’t have to go elsewhere. Let me say again, this is un-categorically a lie based on total ignorance of the pathophysiology of sexual addiction.”
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His wife, author Meg Wilson, writes, “There simply is no connection between a wife’s attractiveness and her husband’s sexual addiction. Those who think otherwise don’t understand how the addiction works.”
She continued, “Sexual addiction is simply abusing the natural drugs found in brain chemistry during arousal to medicate emotional pain. It’s not about sex. Let me say this again, because I know people have a hard time grasping this truth: Sexual addiction is not about sex; it’s about escaping and avoiding the pain.”
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Discovering The Truth
Remember, the roots of a tree are not usually near the surface of the earth. They, instead, run very deep into the earth and often spread far and wide. They become the support system of the tree. So if the roots were abused, damaged, or disrupted in any way, it can significantly alter the health, strength, and growth of the tree. And so this applies to us, as adults, even those who have committed their lives to Christ.
Undealt with pain, trauma, emotional scars, rejection, and neglect can prohibit us from reaching our full potential. If in our minds, we believe that we’re not enough and never will be enough, we will also feel a disconnect between us and God. Though we may hear countless stories of His love, grace, and mercy, we will struggle to accept that for ourselves.
Often, we’ll adopt an attitude that the love we receive is dependent on our performance. The scariest part of all is that these strongholds of the mind can be so ingrained in our lives that we fail to recognize them. This is why it’s important to get into a study or program that will help identify the lies hiding in our belief system.
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Taking A Stand Against Porn
Thankfully, churches all around the world have found a study that can help bring healing and freedom to those in bondage to sexual sin and a variety of other unhealthy habits. It’s called the Conquer Series and it will provide the battle plan for success.
Those who have used this powerful study have learned why trying harder does not work. They’ve become educated on how the brain is changed through the viewing of pornography. They have learned to recognize the painful moments in their past that have contributed to their present struggle. And as a result of that discovery, they have opened themselves up to find the truth, healing, and freedom in Christ that they’ve longed for and deserve.
It’s time for the Church to stand up and fight for those who regularly attend services, and empower people to go out into the streets to reach a lost community. Only then will we see the tide turn around. By choosing to do nothing, we’re allowing porn companies to further line their greedy pockets. And know this, they will continue to do so at the expense of innocent men, women, and children who are so frequently trafficked into these situations.
Now is the time to sound the alarm and get involved! A hurting generation is awaiting freedom, and that freedom will benefit generations to come.